Sometimes telling your story over and over is what it takes to heal. But we aren’t all the same. You are the only one who can know if that is what you need, and how you have been affected by these traumas. And maybe a time will come when you do need to work through them, even if that time isn’t now. You are allowed to heal on your own schedule.

Please forgive me if I seem to side with your Pdoc, but I would like to tell you something I have learned about groups. I remember being very resistant to groups. I think that I was already so good at being invisible, that I feared being unseen and unheard. I now know that for those of us who freeze up and feel lost in a group, being in a group with others with some of the same problems, and someone whose job is to make sure that everyone is seen and heard, is sometimes the best way to work on those very issues. What do you have to lose if you give it a try? And will your pdoc make a deal with you to stop bugging you if you do give it a try and find out that the group doesn’t work for you?